I’ll never understand being threatened by or hating another woman because she is beautiful or successful. Tearing someone down won’t build you up, and it definitely won’t make you any prettier. I’ve always been a strong believer that as women we can shine together, be successful together, and support each other; all without undervaluing one another or being competitive. Babes support babes, if you can’t support a babe – you must lack the self-confidence.
“Empowered women empower women.”
I think we’ve all seen or experienced first hand a girl who hates on another girl just because she’s really pretty, successful, or smart. This can only stem from pure jealousy, i.e., lack of self confidence. Self-confidence is the difference between being threatened by a beautifully smart woman and being influenced by a beautifully smart woman. Jealousy is hate built on insecurity and it usually has a way of sabotaging a good thing for yourself because in the end, what you say and how you make other’s feel about themselves says a lot about you.
“No one has ever made themselves great by showing how small someone else is.”
You can tell a lot about a person by what they choose to see in you. A person who only points out the faults in you have their own insecurities they should be addressing. Do not be fooled. Those people see the value and potential you have but direct other’s attention away from it so that you will appear less than you are. This is because they have such little self-esteem, such little self-confidence, that their jealousy prompts them to attack your character to bring you down to their level. We must pray for those that can see worth and only become envious and mean because of it.
The idea that you must be prettier, more interesting, and more successful than the girl next to you is simply ridiculous. Just be you. Comparison is the thief of confidence. There is no competition between you and the women around you. You can tell by the way a person walks, talks and portrays themselves to others if they are confident in themselves, it just radiates off a person. Confidence makes a person even more beautiful than they already are – you’ve probably heard it before, confidence is attractive. You don’t have to busy yourself by picking someone else apart, being self-confident has nothing to do with anyone else. Allow yourself to glow and let your confidence speak for itself.
I know that having or improving one’s self-esteem can be difficult for some. For those that need this: you are not defined by the family you were born into, the brand on your t-shirt, how clear your skin is, your past, the size of pants you wear, or the part-time job you’re working to pay for the career you want. Confidence is knowing all those things and still being completely who you are each and everyday, putting your best foot forward. Who is any one person to say that you are any less of a person because of those things anyway? You gotta love yourself. If you are unhappy with an aspect in your life, change it. But the sooner you learn that your interests, the way your hair naturally curls, dreams, the things that make you laugh, your thoughts, freckles, and the way you perceive things are just you and embracing that, the sooner you can truly be confident in yourself and not feel the need to be hateful to the girl next to you.
“Inhale confidence, exhale doubt.”
It’s no coincidence that strong women often have strong women behind them. People tend to gravitate towards confident people for a reason – negative people too. Babes support babes is a cute motto, but the nuance is there. Confident women can and should support other women. There has never been bad PR about a couple of girls who were nice to each other. The world is hard as it is for women without tearing each other down – so build each other up, unite a girl gang, and be a babe.