Happy early Valentine’s day loves!! To me, love is the most powerful feeling in the world — it’s a universal language. It’s something we all feel at some point in our lives and there are different kinds of love. You have the love that you share with your person, your partner for life – incredibly captivating and purposeful. The love you share with your family members – always constant. The love you have for your best friends – always reliable. The love that you have for your kids – unbreakable, from what I hear. Then there’s the love that you share with God – everlasting. Though, for tomorrow being the big day of love, I know for a lot of people, it can be one of the most lonely days of the year — or at least feel that way. If you do find yourself single this year, I hope you at the least find yourself wrapped in love with what you do and who you have surrounding yourself with.
Last Valentine’s day looked a lot different for me, personally. I was single for the first time in 7 years and besides my mom and best friends, I didn’t even have anyone to wish me a happy Valentine’s day. That really felt sucky. Though instead of me moping around and wanting to crush anyone who mentioned the L-word around me, I spent my day doing all the things I love. I started by anchoring the newscast I had produced at my university that morning, drove to my hometown later to visit with my mom, made a photoshoot concept I’d really wanted to try come to life with her help, and finally drove home to have some wine with my best-friend. I was so captivated by doing the things I love and spending my time with the people I loved, I didn’t feel lonely or sad for myself at all — quite the opposite really. For decades, Valentine’s day has been a market to couples for chocolate and steak lovers, but we should kick ourselves if we think it’s only limited to celebrating romantic relationships — the day of love encompasses the love you have for yourself and others!!!
For me, I truly believe to find and be in love, you have to be in love with yourself first. The same as having to be able to enjoy your own company to be of good company. But what exactly is love? I don’t believe I could ever put it better than 1 Corinthians 13: Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It’s so incredibly important to be patient with yourself, to be kind to yourself, and to not keep your record of wrong doings in the forefront of your mind, but instead learn and grow from your mistakes so that you can be happy and in love with yourself.
I really believe after Valentine’s day for me last year I began to realize that not just on that day, but everyday I could choose to do what I love and be surrounded by people that love me back. It was the beginning of picking up the pieces to who I thought I was and putting them together with the confidence to become my best version of me. And it was after a couple of months of this new, confident me that was in love with myself and my life that I met Mason Martin for the first time and instantly knew there was something about him. Not to re-tell the story of how we first met, which you can read all about if you missed it in this blog post honey, I’m home, but looking back, I’m convinced it was love at first sight.
When we finally started dating I realized that men that put your heart, feelings, and best interest first are really still out there, that the rom-com actors we dubbed as too good to be true are really real!! Literally, I used to believe that I would have to eventually settle for the guy that tries half of the time after I gripe about it, the guy that puts you first when it’s beneficial for him, the guy that is always looking for a good time with his buddies, a late night and wants you when he wants you, the guy that would literally roll over dead before writing you a love note or even think to go out of his way to do something nice for you without return. Let me tell you ladies and gentlemen, DO NOT EVER SETTLE for less than you deserve because there is a someone to be your grandest love out there for everyone. Mine is Mason.
Ugh he still makes my heart flutter and grin way too big. He is my biggest motivator, confidant, shoulder to cry on and have my tears wiped away, macaroni-eating partner, Bachelor-watching companion, workout partner, future-planner, lake-going love of my life. We are so close thanks to living with each other the past 7 months, and at times, maybe even too close lol, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. I’ve found my person to fill in 1 Corinthians 13: Mason is patient, Mason is kind. Mason does not envy, Mason does not boast, Mason is not proud. Mason is not rude, Mason is not self-seeking, Mason is not easily angered, Mason keeps no record of wrongs. I can’t imagine being any happier if I tried — I’ve only waited my whole life for someone like him to spend the rest of my life with. He is the one for me and he makes me feel confident everyday that I am his.
Power couple as defined by the Urban Dictionary: In a power couple, if one person is flawed, the other person makes up for their weaknesses in strength. Together they are the epitome of what anyone would desire in a relationship. They encourage goodness in the world and make it a better place by being together.
Mason and I are celebrating Valentine’s day a week late by taking a day trip to Arlington for, if you’d believe it, a macaroni festival we have VIP tickets to! Sounds crazy, but it’ll have macaroni vendors whipping up macaroni in a lot of different ways — fried, gooey, in a sandwich, and more we’re too excited! VIP tickets get us in the door to eat at these vendors for free a whole 2 hours before general admission tickets enter the gates and comes with free drink vouchers and keep-sakes. We’ve even booked a hotel for that night to make a day out of it and adventure elsewhere in the metroplex while up there! I don’t know how it began, but everyone kind of dubbed us as macaroni lovers, and I don’t even think we eat more than the average person but it’s definitely our choice side when eating dinner! Tomorrow, we’ll be spending a quiet, quality-time filled night at home with our pup and I wouldn’t have my Valentine’s day any other way. It’s not a normal Valentine’s day but it’s ours!
Looking past Valentine’s day, I have a feeling this year is going to be big for us. Mason is working on creating his own business of home inspecting that I’ll be helping him with as far as paperwork and finances and together I know we are setting up for success! Plus, we’re currently looking to change our living situation by either buying our first home together or buying a lot to build our first home together (currently renting a cute home, but smaller than we’d like and we don’t want to rent anymore!), both of which are already picked out but under consideration. We talk about the future a lot and what we want and it’s so amazing to have our ideas and wishes line up and be able to support one another in our dreams and idealizations. Becoming a family and starting one with Mason feels so right, like the stars aligned for us and are pointing us in this direction. I’ve never been more myself with anyone and I’ve never been more happy or more in love. I can’t wait to see our future unfold before us — I know I’m living the happiest days of my life right now and I wish this kind of love and happiness for everyone. Until then, hear me out — never. ever. settle.